We have two ears and one mouth so that we listen more than we speak.
I’m not sure who said it first, it wasn’t me… if you know, maybe you can leave it in the comments following this.
Few develop intuition, or other skills and gifts, without first listening.
I don’t mean hear. Hearing means the eardrum got some action and the brain got some signals of the ‘whatever’ nature. Listening is hearing with intention. It’s so intent, the ears almost go taut like a dog listening for her mistress to say ‘treat.’ This type of listening can be felt in the body by most people.
How do you develop this level of listening? Mostly, by learning how to be still. Sit outside and see what your ears pick up.
Now do some deep breathing, quiet your mind, and listen again. Don’t be surprised if a hummingbird’s wings flap near you or a family of finches serenade you. Wait! Was that a robin in the distance, a butterfly on my knee? It is in this stillness that you most likely will find a sense of wonder and oneness with nature.
What does this have to do with Clear Communication and Self-care/Prevention, two of the five items leading us to thriving in this pandemic? Well, your family/staff/friends/community, everyone you influence, can be affected by this wonder of Oneness you begin to cultivate by practicing stillness in nature, your yard, near a plant or tree, a candle, music – find what works for you. Just remember: Listening creates a doorway to connection. Listening is NOT thinking about what you're going to say next while the other person is speaking! Rather, it is being CURIOUS about what is being said, how it's being said. It is LEARNING about the person speaking, being open and making a true connection that begins to develop trust.
Any word that begins with ‘co’ like in communicate, means ‘with’ or ‘together.’ Good communication brings people together, and good leadership requires good communication. When people operate as One, there is synergy, collaboration and creativity grows exponentially. For example, the creativity required to find a vaccine for Covid-19 comes about with collaboration amongst the scientist community, and clear communication from a leading body, like the World Health Organization, which requires collaboration on a global level.
Are you the type of leader who will cultivate your own sense of Oneness so that you will motivate others toward unity, synergy, collaboration and creativity?
If your answer is Yes, then you must begin with exquisite self-care. That will be my next topic along with prevention of illness.
For some of us, staying at home and working isn’t new, so take some pointers from us stay-at-home types. For example get up every day at the same time, exercise, shower, get dressed as if you are getting ready for work, school or anywhere that requires your non-pajama self. Do this at least 3 to 4 times a week. Save PJs and loungewear for evenings and weekends. It helps to split up the day.
Set your routine so that you aren’t doing one thing for too long -- it's more interesting and easier on the body. Break up your day with walks, read the paper or a good book, look at art from places that are offering free shows like the Smithsonian, talk to friends, go for a bike ride.
Meaning & Purpose!
Write that article or start that novel. Paint, draw, write, blog, crochet, design, garden, clean the pool, make repairs, exercise. Educate yourself on your industry or anything that could make you a more effective leader or more valuable employee, or add or improve a service to your clients. Integrate these into your daily routine.
These routines will help to give your days meaning and purpose when you add small goals to them. It's also helpful for children. Children absolutely thrive on routine and need it now more than ever. But make weekends special -- make it the only time they have ice cream, for example. Then everyone can look forward to it together.
Be safe. Be well. Thrive!